"It's the glasses."   That's the only explanation I ever got, lol.  In high school, I was told that I was too goody to ask out, or too innocent.  The glasses were the overall reason for this assumption.  There is a fine line between being confident and being dominant.  Guys don't like to be told what to do, and where to go too often, or the opposite, to reassure too much. Us girls don't like that much, either.  But, when it comes down to it, the girls with glasses are taken, for the most part, on the assumption that they are too good to bother with for long--not fun.  We can deal with it, or make up for it by smiling and laughing a little bit more, lol.  The glasses make us smart, right away, so we can be all the ditz we want to be for the hell of it, haha.  But, don't change.  Be who you are.  Just have fun doing it :)

Sistersheree - you rock!  Another very wonderful friend of mine wrote me back yesterday after I was lamenting a bit, "Hang in there darling. The universe has a plan for these things... why, imagine how much worse things could be if your independence was lost to the wrong person. Stay strong and take care of that lovely child of yours... I suspect things are going to get a whole lot warmer and weirder on this little planet in our lifetimes."  I know this, and that's why I've not "settled", but if does feel good to hear it from others like yourself and him. 

LOL, Trish!  Girl, that's what I used to hear in highschool when I was after the "bad boys" - now I've found that a lot of men find girls in glasses sexy hot.  ;)  Flaunt um if you got um!  Gotta love a girl who can pull off that sweet look, with her hair tied up, then can whip it down and give you a run for you money, haha! 

I think your friend is right in his summation. I think a lot of guys now days (i'm only guessing here) Are not very assertive these days. I don't think men  are like they used to be, take charge, of course in a  non threating way. Now my ex, who stragely looks somewhat like you tend to be more aggressive. She had the  need to be alpha dog, Went  on to try out to be a BPD officer, Couldnt' pass the POST test twice and didn't pass, tried the Sheriif dept and didn't pass. So, she became a BPD dispatcher. She needed a job that would define her. She had some serious control issues. Especially when she was an assignment editor at a local TV station, Mark Christian from KERO about  Brandy at KGET sometime. Anyway, You don't see to be "scary to me" I think soemguys get scared when a woman has her self together, especially when they aren't. And the phone tag thing? or the offers of  wanting to get to know the guy and he's not following up? Probably means he's hit someone else or  others and  sadly isn't into you enough to quit all the rest. IE: has grown up yet. Or, he's wanting to get into your panties, he just knows your too smart and would figure that out. realll quick.

These are just my guesses, but hey I could be wrong. It's not like i'm Hitch er anything (yes, will smith reference)

Thanks for this great article for Bakotopia magazine!

Never settle for less than w hat you deserve. Thats what simportant:)

oops that was me Amy

That was her, Amy!