Maybe he was the one who needed half his weight in beer, because you certainly look good to me.

You have to read the book "He's not that  in to you" Men will often times  say hey she's hot or whatever(they think you are really hot). But what they are thinking is, we really don't match up. (personality clash)   Men do tend to tell another story when faced head on(But women do the same thing, ladies , yes you do) Guys don't like  confrontation especially  when they want to keep it simple.  But women do the same thing.

Yeah right Joe. Sorry but this sounds to me like a good ol' case of "gotta keep her hangin' just in case it doesn't work out with the new girlfriend"

ratbastard! (not you, joe, the dude)

cause you know johns has had much experiance with the ladys.

I have 6 brothers 4 of the 6 dealt with one girl at a time. 2 of the 6 always had one girl they went out with and one or two they kept in line just in case the one they were going with at the time did not work out. Not all men are the same. Some are honest REAL and up front about who they are. Kindra you are a very beautiful strong woman who is worth her weight in Gold or Beer which ever you desire dear lady! And no John nothing in this comment is about you, just so we are clear on that fact.

If a guy says you're hot, you're hot...and you are Kindra ;) teehee.  But, I agree, there are times when people just clash on a different level other than physical.  Just because someone is attracted to you, doesn't mean they can't change their mind because of something that happened, or something that was said.  I also agree that he should have been honest with you.  Communication is the best tool for any situation. :)  

Now, if I could get my husband of 10 yrs to communicate with ME. hehe.  Hey, I got advice, but its easier said than done :D

John, I've read that book - it's my best friend's bible.  Whenever we go on road trips she'll read it to me, so I've very familiar with it, lol!

Thanks everyone :)  I'm already a-okay about it.  He's a really nice guy who's apologized about not being up front and something like this isn't going to ruin our friendship.  I'm just brutally honest, so I guess the way I see it everyone should be able to just tell it like it is.  I also tend to send the wrong signals sometimes, so no wonder!  Aww no worries, lol!

Case in point though, men need to grab their cojones and be up front unless they really are going for a reputation of being a player, ha!  Most of us girls are strong and can handle the truth - I think we'd rather handle the truth. ;)

 Men suck with loud, smacking sounds!

Well, at least they do when I come over. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!

I think it goes both ways, qwejibo :)

I think men sometimes don't want to be brutally honest to keep from hurting women's feelings and I think the feeling is mutual.

Lets say for example:  Yeah yeah he thinks your hot and he says that. But lets say  you have a temper and you flip out easily about stuff. Do you think he wants to come out and tell you "look I like you but I think you have a tendency of being hateful and I "aint" into that"  Sometimes there are times to use diplomacy.  Hey I'm not saying that's the case, I don't know you like  he might. I'm just saying here.

Twinkie and  sista if he was trying to keep her on the string just "in case" he would be more approachable. Being all niiiice and overly kind.  

Annie I have had much experience with the lady's. After my second wife. I damn near dated everyone in the phone book. No not like I was ho'n. I decided I'd date, and I did. A LOT! It was fun nice and casual. I let them know that as well. I wasn't going for any misconceptions. I did have a piece of advice my father gave me. If one breaks your heart, go out and get another one! Who wants to sit around all dog faced and hurt.  Haha reminds me of the Tom Petty song. (Best Thing I Ever Had I think is the name of the song)

Also dating is the "kick the tires check everything out phase" You don't want to get locked into someone that you won't like later on. Dating is for getting to know the person not just  jump into bed, or making marriage plans.  Not saying you are like that. Just was stating that as a point of interest.

Once again SamG you are correct, both ways is true.

john.

or when a dude has a small penis and you dont want him to feel bad but you just cant stand it? is that the same?

Haha, Annie - you are too much!  I've totally been there done that.  I'd say that's same :)

Guys with big ego's, small penis and sports cars are my fav. You know the Lerpe Swarthy type who give you the double click finger gun wink smirk and expect you to fall over with your ankles above your head. 2nd fav are the ones who are so busy talking about how wonderful and accomplished they are that they forget your even in the room. 3rd fav name droppers who drop so many names that you can do the backstroke all the way home on the ocean of crap they try and impress you with.  Soooo glad I am not single anymore!

I can think of a name to go along with each of those descriptions!  Haha! 

I wouldn't know Annie, you might want to ask who you are with ;) hehe oops that was "snippy"