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I haven’t been around my family much in the past 10 years. Since getting married, it seemed that my husband and my kids were my first priority. I know this is true. But, my family is just as important to me! While I was very close to my family growing up, I began to feel that I don’t know some of my more distant aunts, uncles, and cousins anymore. My sister made it clear to me in one simple sentence. "You may feel like you don’t know them anymore, but they know you!" She said this to me last night on the phone after telling me that my cousin had just passed away. I care about everyone. Family, friends, and aquaintences are all uniquely special to me. I would also like to spend time and meet with everyone I have come to know through Bakotopia, Flickr, and Myspace. I’m tired of making excuses that are not excuses, but honesty in reason. I hope that those who have asked me to spend a simple hello-how-are-you meet, or asked me to attend a production, or concert will understand that I WANT to be there. Right now, it is simply a matter of money and time. My husband is unemployed. We are waiting on his license to be a nurse to be validated. He took the test last month! :) This is my last year to be a stay at home mom, per say. My youngest starts Kindergarten next school year. Then what will I do? lol If anything, I will have more time. How do you make time for family, friends, and your spouse and children without neglecting those who are dear to you? 4 comments from 4 users
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posted by
an1ok1joe
on Apr 10, 2008 at 12:52 PM
I was the same way a few years ago, I did something about it. my family has an anual family reunion and I've been going to it for the last 4 years,..now it's been going on for 30 plus years. I love to meet people and get to know them, life is way to short and you want to at least know as many of your family members as you can. I't s like they are a value to you as a person but you learn about yourself too. Go, get to know those distant family members, i bet they are very special, and wonderful to get to know.
posted by
AnnieLWhite
on Apr 10, 2008 at 01:40 PM
i hate my family, so i don't talk to them, they mean nothing to me. so all my time is devoted to my family & working...... honestly if my family was worth a shit, i would spend time with them, but they aren't. As for working, he can get a temp Jon in the mean-time just to make some money, also when your son goes into school you could get a job. I hate staying home, it always felt like i did nothing with my time, and i never had money to buy what i wanted. and i don't like depending on people to buy you things..... posted by
twinkie
on Apr 10, 2008 at 06:55 PM
a phone call? I don't really know. I suffer from the same dilema. Although I DO call my mom frequently and she keeps me updated. So I don't feel completely out of the loop, yah know? It's hard when you have kids that involved in sports/music. They keep you busy and that's ok. I'm sure our cousins and aunts are busy living their own lives too. posted by
Mystrish
on Apr 10, 2008 at 07:10 PM
Thanks for your input :) The family just got together for Easter. We have been trying to get the Easter thing back on track after a few years of not doing anything. I was there! I help my dad with the BBQ :) I agree with Norma on the phone call thing lol. I try to call my grandma, she is the know all in the family. But, since my Papa died five years ago, she is hardly ever home to call. I guess it's just a matter of being able to visit for even a minute of chit chat whether by driving over, or calling until I reach someone. As for Annie White, I understand what your saying. I have some of those in my family. Come to think about it...I'm waisting a lot of time on them! Thanks :)
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