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Beauty or Bust!
Topics: Boobs, breasts, response, chi chi
Posted by Chase Mon May 12, 2008 13:55:26 PDT
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Beauty or Bust!
Response to ‘Chi Chi Cha Cha’ as it appeared in Bakotopia Magazine - April 17 edition

By Chase Brockett, Bakotopia staff

I am going with Denise Ornelas’ advice on breast implants that “whatever size you choose - go a size bigger!”

Because to me there is nothing more appealing then a monstrous set of gaudy, fake breasts standing at attention like a pair Nazis on the march to make you both respect and desire a woman. Although I mean no disrespect to my fellow Bakotopian, I have to strongly disagree with her perspective on plastic surgery and particularly her article on breast implants.


For Denise's original story: click on boobies!


My experiences have put me in contact with a number of women who prefer less to wear make up than to MAACO it on.  And no small number of that population has opted to go under the scalpel for a perky new pair. To me, there is clearly a disconnect between a healthy perception of beauty and a horrifying one.

Maybe I am alone in this, but this layer-cake “beautification” image does not appeal to me as much as women seem to think.

And it is all the more depressing when not only do I have to witness a mass delusion regarding what is beautiful, but also that I, as a man, have to bear the brunt of responsibility for the objectification of women.

The secret is out! Men tend to like big boobs! But I do not feel that it warrants spending thousands of dollars (his or hers) and weeks of recovery for the sake of an undoubtedly temporary self-esteem fix.

Is there that much emphasis placed on how well endowed a woman is that her budget should even potentially be consulted? Lots of men tend to like action movies, does that mean that women need to learn how to work explosives? That would be damn cool, but it would not be worth the singed eyebrows and the potential loss of limbs just for the sake of a statistical trend.

Another secret is out, too: there are a number of guys who will go to great lengths for sex, even if they have no interest in a relationship. Chemicals are tricky - and that’s what cosmetic enhancements stimulate: chemicals, not genuine affection. That is the “confidence” and the “sexy” that plastic surgery exudes - nothing more than a temporarily satiated, but deeply rooted self-loathing that will never be resolved with a scalpel.

And realize there are many guys who share this same feeling of inadequacy.  Watch late night television and count how many Enzyte, Extenz, and other “natural male enhancement” formulas pop up during every commercial break. It’s all a marketing ploy to get you to feel bad enough about yourself to allow them to make you think you feel good.

Sexuality is not the same thing as empowerment. Fake breasts do no equate to respect.

There is a difference between pain being beauty and pain warping beauty. We are seeing this in a generation of emotionally scarred or socially unaware individuals who put “being fat” as one of the worst things they could imagine. Not to mention the message it sends to impressionable female youth that sexual desirability is the apex of womanhood.

What about a personality that doesn’t feel the incessant need to self-sacrifice for the sake of something as trivial and fickle as beauty? One that can dissolve the pressures put out by both men and other women? That’s not to say enhancing one’s looks is a bad thing, or that feeling attractive should be condemned.

But it’s a matter of the priority it receives and level it influences our relation of self to society. Develop the inner self and inner pride, don’t hack away at the outer self and induce chemical pride.

Originally printed in Bakotopia magazine 5-15-08, issue 28

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Comment From: likhy2

Set the Pace Chase!I totally agree with you. This is a good post, and a very well-written one at that.By the way, my ex-girlfriend had fake boobies. They felt a little wierd.

Comment From: AnnieLWhite

yea i want bigger boobs cause i think they look better in shirts. but big boobs arent good for yoga. so im torn. Comment From: Malface

One of your best articles :)